Tim's journal

Intent doesn't change the effect, but is it really irrelevant in your example? Whether an anvil is dropped intentionally or not makes a tremendous difference in how one should respond. A police report is a good place to start if it was dropped maliciously, perhaps. But berating someone for an accident, while understandable in the heat of the moment, is more of a long-term feature of an abusive relationship than of a productive and constructive one. I'm not sure how well that carries over into the social realities beyond the anvil example, but it gave me some pause in reading this comment.