"It sounds like you are implying <sexist thing>. I'm sure you don't really think that. <change subject>";
No. No. No. I'm sure the person in question was not just implying but actually stating whatever they were stating about my sex, and I'm sure any sharp man "ally" would be sure of that, too. So that "comeback" shows the person making it to be weak of mind, which infuriates me. Put yourself in my shoes: I'm a woman and some man says [insert sexist dumb thing he said here] and I, as a woman, knowing exactly how sexist his statement is, I not only apologize *for* this person's insult ("I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, bro" *backslap*) but then I also go ahead and change the subject (assumed: quickly) so I don't offend him (reminder: I was the one offended in the first place) and/or force him to account to *me* for what he said. Are they kidding? And I'm saying "they" because I know the comeback was not your idea but something on the GF blog. But just because it was there doesn't make saying it right.
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Date: 2012-09-15 04:57 am (UTC)No. No. No. I'm sure the person in question was not just implying but actually stating whatever they were stating about my sex, and I'm sure any sharp man "ally" would be sure of that, too. So that "comeback" shows the person making it to be weak of mind, which infuriates me. Put yourself in my shoes: I'm a woman and some man says [insert sexist dumb thing he said here] and I, as a woman, knowing exactly how sexist his statement is, I not only apologize *for* this person's insult ("I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, bro" *backslap*) but then I also go ahead and change the subject (assumed: quickly) so I don't offend him (reminder: I was the one offended in the first place) and/or force him to account to *me* for what he said. Are they kidding? And I'm saying "they" because I know the comeback was not your idea but something on the GF blog. But just because it was there doesn't make saying it right.