Hi; here from a link at Metafilter. Thank you for writing this up. (I may have more to say later; I'm in a rush right now.)

An article from a few months ago: Tolerance is not a moral precept, which brings up the concept of tolerance as a peace treaty, and those who want to be bigots or bullies are violating the treaty.

[T]he model of a peace treaty differs from the model of a moral precept in one simple way: the protection of a peace treaty only extends to those willing to abide by its terms. It is an agreement to live in peace, not an agreement to be peaceful no matter the conduct of others. A peace treaty is not a suicide pact.

A lot of abusers try to misuse the notion of "tolerance," and claim that it means "you have to let me beleive, say, and do whatever I want."