And there would be no debate if people simply said "I choose not to fight that battle" rather than "I just didn't like my name."

(In addition, I'm not sold on the idea that taking on the patriarchal naming convention can be a feminist choice, given that all the plausible problems with not doing so could just as well be solved either by taking any of the thousands of possible surnames that aren't your spouse's surname or your father's surname, or by the husband and children taking the woman's surname, except for the "I actually like patriarchy" problem. Certainly, feminist people can make non-feminist choices, but the choices do not become elevated by virtue of the person's ostensibly high ideals.)