Hadn't seen it. It made me sad, in the same way that most of the mainstream-gay-movement rhetoric about marriage does. I posted the quotation from White because it made me ask myself: are straight people still learning something from queer people about how to organize relationships? Or have gay people decided to just stop creating the "endless" variations that White talks about in favor of being just like straight people instead?

I can imagine some of my readers replying that nobody should be obligated to "create new conventions", in the way that White puts it, that it's important to make sure all people have the right to be traditional. And I guess it is. But I think there's a line between making sure straight people and the rest of us enjoy the same privileges, and venerating straight institutions so much that straight people lose the opportunity to learn from queer people and queer people lose the opportunity to be something different from a straight person in a way that goes beyond monogamous, lights-off closed-door partnering. And that line has been crossed.