Thanks for this. I wound up getting a copy of dicedtomato's comment in my inbox yesterday, and it raised my blood pressure right through the roof and led me to write a very long, detailed and, at times, nasty response. You've basically said what I was saying in that long screed in just a few sentences.
One thing which probably is worth pointing out: I don't think dicedtomato was replying to me as such, so much as to all those people she's run across who were saying "you can't be a scientist, you're too pretty" or similar such comments to her. Which is fine, and yeah, I get that my comment proved to be a handy spot to hang that particular rant. Didn't make it any more comfortable from my end, but hey, that's life, and I'm used to it by now.
Oh, and dicedtomato, if you're reading: your little comment about being offended by my choosing not to participate in a game I couldn't win? That came across as EXTREMELY sexist to me, because it implied simply because of my expressed gender, you're expecting me to do an extra shift of work every day; work members of a different gender aren't expected to perform. Do consider that.
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Date: 2012-09-18 11:08 pm (UTC)One thing which probably is worth pointing out: I don't think dicedtomato was replying to me as such, so much as to all those people she's run across who were saying "you can't be a scientist, you're too pretty" or similar such comments to her. Which is fine, and yeah, I get that my comment proved to be a handy spot to hang that particular rant. Didn't make it any more comfortable from my end, but hey, that's life, and I'm used to it by now.
Oh, and dicedtomato, if you're reading: your little comment about being offended by my choosing not to participate in a game I couldn't win? That came across as EXTREMELY sexist to me, because it implied simply because of my expressed gender, you're expecting me to do an extra shift of work every day; work members of a different gender aren't expected to perform. Do consider that.